Usually, the first line of thought whenever someone is accused of cheating and they get angry is that they’re guilty.
It’s not always the case, but it’s often the case.
Although the reason for this suspicion is not clear, but we often see their anger as their way of trying to cover up for cheating and, perhaps, take the focus away from them.
As a lady, do you suspect that your man is cheating on you?
As I mentioned earlier, if you accuse him of cheating and he gets mad, it doesn’t automatically translate to him being guilty.
Still, anger is a form of defense that gives you a heads-up that there may be something more going on with him.
Now, you really want to know why he got mad when you accused him of cheating.
In this article, you’ll find the answers you seek if you read to the end.
“If You Accuse Him Of Cheating And He Gets Mad”- 8 Things It Means
1. He is trying to get defensive
If you accuse him of cheating and he gets mad, it can mean that he is trying to get defensive.
Most cheaters get angry when you accuse or confront them.
In this case, your man will likely lash out at you if he’s feeling defensive.
He may accuse you of thinking the worst about him or not trusting him just to throw you off.
Men who use anger as a defense strategy when confronted with evidence of cheating may go into mood swings and start sulking.
Some even use the silent treatment.
It’ll interest you to know that it’s in the behavior of people who are unfaithful to their partners to usually look for flimsy excuses to pick fights or act extremely irritably around their partners.
It doesn’t matter if you’re talking about what happened or not.
He’ll put up the defensive front to dissuade you from making mention of it, and when you want to talk about it, he’ll try to shut you down outrightly.
The goal is to block it from every angle and shield himself.
He’ll say things like,
“What’s your problem? I can’t believe that you think so lowly of me.”
“How do you ever think that I can do a thing like that?”
“Stop asking already! I’ve told you that nothing happened between me and her.”
Can you relate to the statements above?
He’s on the defensive.
2. He’s trying to blame you for his actions
When accused of cheating, a cheating person may try to blame their partner for their actions.
It’s a common tactic applied by cheaters when they feel that you’re on to what they’re doing.
I know you’ll be shocked when you accuse your man of cheating, and he admits to it, only to turn around in anger and blame you for his cheating.
In his opinion, you or your actions made him cheat.
It’s not new.
Every day, we see different instances of people pushing the blame for their actions on their partners, all in a bid to justify their actions.
Sometimes, they push the blame on their partners to try to reduce the level of guilt they’re feeling for their actions.
He may say something like,
“You were always busy, and that’s why I did it.”
Don’t be surprised if he takes the blame game a notch higher by blaming his affair partner.
He’ll say something like,
“She was always coming on to me, and it made it hard for me to resist her.”
Sigh.
Blaming everyone but himself for his actions is simply cowardice.
3. He doesn’t want you to talk about it
If you accuse him of cheating and he gets mad, it can mean that he doesn’t want you to talk about it.
Yes.
He knows very well that he messed up, but he doesn’t want you to talk about it.
You’d think bullies are the most courageous persons but that’s not true…. they are actual cowards.
He knows he is damned and in a bid to run away from the consequences of his actions he responds in anger.
This is especially applicable to men who don’t usually admit their faults.
4. He’s a narcissist
Sometimes, if you accuse him of cheating and he gets mad, it can mean that he’s a narcissist.
A narcissist will habitually get angry if you accuse him of cheating or doing anything wrong.
Narcissists don’t like to be questioned.
They feel that they owe no one any explanations and are not answerable to anyone.
Not even you, their partner.
So, firstly, he’ll get angry that you’re keeping tabs on him and questioning his motives.
Are people in relationships not meant to be accountable to each other?
You’re not wrong for questioning him in any way.
Secondly, he’ll be mad that you’re accusing him of doing something wrong.
A narcissist never wants his wrongs pointed out to him.
It’ll bring him shame, and shame is the last thing he ever wants to feel.
5. He’s immature
Immaturity is one thing that can probably make your man get mad at him for accusing him of cheating.
He may not know how to handle the confrontation and his involuntary response may be anger.
An immature person would act in unpredictable and inappropriate ways when faced with pressure.
This may be the case with your man too.
6. He is a player
To this man, it is all a game.
He has studied the psychology of women and from experience his default response to such confrontation is anger.
He throws the fit to throw you off and make you doubt your evidence.
He is the king of the game and knows never to be caught vulnerable is it.
This guy here is a serial cheat and he is only using the anger emotion to play mind games on you.
7. He doesn’t care
He is angry because he is brazenly cheating and doesn’t care about your feelings.
He may be more upset that you thought he cared than the actual accusation.
It is possible he is more upset at you and the the relationship you share.
The discovery and confrontation may have opened the Pandora’s box and released the pent up anger he has been nursing.
For things to get to this point, the relationship must’ve become very toxic.
Maybe you are the only one pushing for things to continue, but your guy is done.
He doesn’t love you and he doesn’t care about your feelings.
Sad.
8. He’s innocent
Have you ever been accused falsely?
How did you feel?
What was your first response?
First responses in situations like this will depend on the person’s personality and some other factors.
If your man is innocent and you accuse him of cheating, it’s possible that he’ll get mad at you.
Please don’t blame him for his reaction because he probably didn’t see the accusation coming.
He may go through a rollercoaster of emotions – surprise, shock, doubt, disbelief, and then anger.
He’s trying so hard to process and believe the fact that you just accused him of cheating.
He’ll be so pained that you can think so lowly of him.
In cases like this, flying into a burst of anger is expected, although there are better ways he could have controlled his emotions and handled the situation.
But he’ll get mad at you because he’s innocent.
Who knows?
The thought of cheating on you probably never crossed his mind.