As a lady, you want to read this piece till the end.
It’s one thing to have admirers.
It’s another for a married man to crush on you so badly that he’s ready to cheat on his wife with you.
Okay, so you’re single and not interested in married men or guys in relationships, but you’re friendly with a man who falls into the above category.
So, how do you decipher the intentions of his friendliness with you?
He may be drawn to you because of your intelligence, smartness, or diligence and feels he can learn something from you.
It’s also possible that he wants to have an affair with you.
You must be wondering how to pinpoint what exactly he wants from you.
Stay with me as we explore the signs a married man wants to cheat with you.
8 Signs A Married Man Wants To Cheat With You
1. Your instincts tell you so
Never underestimate the power of your intuition.
Instincts almost always never lie.
If you feel something strongly in your gut, there’s a high chance it’s what you think it is.
But sometimes, you disregard the nudge you’re getting and call it nothing simply because you don’t believe in yourself.
Is this married man flattering and showering you with so much sweet talk?
Do you feel that he’s only doing all these as a means to an end – to get into bed with you?
Then, you’re probably right.
He takes you out on dates and would do anything for you.
In fact, he promises you the whole world and starts to buy desirable things to win your favor.
Some ladies don’t mind being spoiled by a married man, but you should be concerned because if he feels too good to be true, he probably is.
Like Nigerians like to say, “Awoof dey purge belle” (meaning freebies can hurt you sometimes).
This doesn’t mean every married man around is out to get you, but if he is acting all buttery and doing things his wife disapproves of for you, then something is very wrong.
2. He tells you that he’s married but still flirts with you
This married man has no difficulty with telling you that he’s married, but it doesn’t stop him from flirting with you.
Even when it looks like you’ve forgotten his marital status, he drops subtle hints to remind you, but that doesn’t stop him from speaking to and touching you inappropriately.
This shouldn’t be, right?
He’s testing the waters with you and doesn’t want to feel guilty if anything eventually happens between you.
This is his subtle way of telling you not to get attached to him no matter what happens because he has a wife.
He wants the best of two worlds.
3. He keeps his marital status a secret from you
Some married men don’t hesitate to tell you they’re married.
On the other hand, there are those who come to you, fronting as single men.
This married man may fall into the second category.
In fact, dare I say that most cheating married men are in this group.
It makes more sense because presenting himself as a single man will increase his chances of getting into bed with you.
Some people think that single ladies prefer to be wooed by married men.
They’re of the school of thought that single ladies find married men more attractive than their single counterparts, but that’s merely an unfounded rumor.
If you suspect or find out that the man you’re hanging out with is married and this is information he hid away from you, then best believe he is ready to cheat.
It is very premeditated and not an error of omission.
In the words of my Nigerian brothers, “Shine your eye”!
4. He tells you outrightly
One of the most evident signs a married man wants to cheat with you is that he tells you his intentions outrightly.
This way, you don’t need to look for other signs since he has given you the most obvious one.
He tells you that he’s married, so his affair with you will only make you a side chick and nothing more.
He is willing to have you on the side, fulfilling his sexual and emotional desires.
He is ready to cheat with you when he lays the cards on the table like this.
5. He discusses his marital issues with you
Men usually don’t discuss their marital issues with other women, even if they’re friends.
They may talk about it with their male friends.
But if a married man starts confiding in you and discussing the problems he has in his marriage, it’s a subtle sign that he wants to cheat with you.
Two things happen when a problem arises in a marriage – you either look for a solution or you look for a distraction.
This married man is probably looking for a distraction from the issues in his marriage.
That’s why he shares them with you.
No, he’s not letting you in because he wants you to proffer solutions.
He’s only telling you things are not rosy in his marriage, so he’s looking for an escape.
He’s indirectly telling you that he’s unhappy in the marriage and would like to do something to make him happy.
Something like cheating with you.
6. He gets jealous when you’re with other men
There’s nothing wrong with being single and having men coming around you, being interested in you, and asking you out.
Your friend, who is a married man, should have no business with whom you hang out because he’s obviously married.
But you notice that he gets jealous whenever other guys are around; meanwhile, he is already dropping hints that he is interested in you.
This is because he wants you to himself.
So, it’s natural for him to be jealous when other men indicate interest in you.
In this situation, you’re a conquest to him, and he’ll do whatever it takes to get you before any other guy does.
7. He maintains eye contact with you too often
The eye is said to be the window of the soul.
If he looks into your eyes too often and you find that suggestive look in his stare, sis, that’s too much of a hint to miss.
He is ready to cheat with you.
You may even feel his eye rove over your body and practically undress you.
His eyes reflect the state of his heart towards you.
8. He’s interested in knowing all about you
One of the ways to woo a woman is to ask her deep questions and connect with her emotionally.
That’s what most women like, and many men know this.
This man has an added advantage because he’s married already and may have firsthand experience with softening a woman up before moving in and making his intentions known.
A man who is not interested in you sexually will only talk about superficial things.
But when a married man starts asking you deep questions about yourself, it’s a subtle sign that he probably wants to cheat with you.
He’s trying to build an emotional connection with you by asking these questions and bonding over sharing experiences with you.
It’ll make it easier for him to make his next move, which is proposing to have sex with you.