Cheating is wrong; however, when a cheater tries to justify their cheating, it becomes even more terrible.
You will be even more shocked if you listen to some of the things cheaters say when you confront them.
Some may resort to the most outrageous lies to justify their wrongdoings.
Others may say hurtful things to you and try to pass the blame for their misbehavior to you.
When confronting a cheater, you must prepare your heart for the most incredible lies you have ever heard and even a blatant attack on your self-esteem.
If you are seeing the behavior patterns of a cheater in your partner, it is wise to anticipate what they will say when you confront them.
This article aims to help you do this by exploring the various things cheaters say to justify their cheating.
Let’s get started.
10 Incredible Things Cheaters Say To Justify Their Cheating
1. The ” You have been distant recently” excuse
Really, it is surprising how a full-grown adult would want to pass on the blame for their actions to someone else.
However, this is what cheaters do when they try to justify their cheating.
“You have been distant recently. That’s why I cheated on you.”
This statement above is a prime example of a cheater trying to play the victim card after being caught cheating on you.
The main aim of this statement is to portray themselves as victims of neglect who didn’t have any choice other than to cheat on you with the next person who gave them attention.
“My partner is not giving me attention. I think I will cheat.”
Do you see how lame it sounds?
Yet, it seems to make perfect sense to cheaters.
Even if your partner is distant from you, the solution isn’t cheating on them.
Attempting to discuss with them will go a long way to settle whatever could be wrong.
2. The “it was a mistake” excuse
This is one of the most common things cheaters say to justify their cheating.
In most of the movies I watched as a kid, cheaters had a stock phrase for this kind of situation.
They would usually say, “It was the devil’s work”.
Ask them to explain when and how the devil managed to take hold of them, and they will become speechless.
In fact, there was this popular joke about how the devil sometimes gets hurt about being accused of doing things he didn’t do. Lol.
Anyway, avoid being taken in by this excuse.
Cheating has never been a mistake, and it will never be; bear this in mind.
It takes a lot to cheat on someone you are married and committed to.
What most people don’t realize is that just like love, cheating is a decision.
Even when the person claims vulnerability, it must have started with a poor decision that only eventually facilitated the act.
3. The “you don’t care about me” excuse
Often, cheaters justify their cheating by saying their partner doesn’t care for them.
They may further rationalize that since their partners don’t actually care about them, they won’t care if they cheat.
Having the idea that someone you are in a long-term relationship with wouldn’t care if you cheated on them is the grandest form of “delulu“.
But cheaters would say this just to justify cheating on you.
This is just another attempt by your cheating partner to play the victim.
If it was true that your behaviors made them think you didn’t care about them, there are several other constructive ways to resolve this situation.
This is just another one of those manipulative things cheaters say.
4. The “I don’t know what made me do it” excuse
Sometimes, cheaters attempt to justify their cheating by acting confused and claiming to have been under the influence of something else when committing the act.
You may hear things like, “I don’t know what came over me” and similar words.
This set of cheaters don’t attempt to blame you.
Instead, they blame the person they cheated with.
They would tell you tales of how they struggled valiantly against the seduction before succumbing to the pressure.
Through all this narration, they would never paint themselves as the villain.
Rather, they will make it look like the person they cheated with forced them to cheat.
5. The “I was bored” excuse
It is hard for a relationship to maintain the momentum at which it started throughout.
Every relationship has times when things slow down a little before picking up again.
It is inevitable with long-term relationships.
That period when the tempo of things slows down a little in the relationship is what some cheaters use to justify cheating.
They may say things like, “I was bored with the relationship. We had fallen into a routine, and I needed something exciting”.
Your reaction would probably be something like:
“Ahhh! You needed something exciting, and you cheated?
You didn’t see exciting activities like bungee jumping, skydiving, mountain climbing, racecar driving, and several other thrilling activities to be involved in?”
You won’t be wrong to feel this way.
Imagine being in a marriage with someone who cheats every time they are bored…It’s quite unimaginable, I know.
6. The “you weren’t satisfying me sexually” excuse
Sexual dissatisfaction has been pegged down as one of the most common causes of cheating.
Many cheaters do so because they feel like there’s something more to be gotten from sex than what they get from their partners.
They will attempt to make you feel bad and guilty for their decision to cheat.
Stand firm!
It is possible that you didn’t satisfy your partner sexually.
However, that’s not a license to cheat.
Communication is critical in such situations, and if your partner feels like they are not being satisfied sexually in the relationship, they should have communicated with you.
Together, you would have found a constructive solution to this situation.
One… That doesn’t involve cheating.
7. The “it was just sex” excuse
I don’t still understand how people claim to have no-strings-attached sex.
Like you decide to have sex with someone you don’t have any form of feelings for?
How do you even manage to enjoy it, then?
Regardless of my opinions on this, it is a common excuse that cheaters sometimes use to justify their cheating.
“Ooh, it was just sex. I really don’t care about him.”
They may even go on to affirm love for you, saying, “It’s you I love… it was just sex, but my heart belongs to only you.”
Huh?
This nonchalant view of cheating is not only shocking, it is also disheartening in the blatant disregard for your feelings.
It is highly insensitive to justify cheating on your partner by saying you only did it for the sex and nothing more.
Sex isn’t just physical; otherwise, we will be like animals.
It is also emotional.
Sadly, this set of cheaters rarely admit they are wrong because they actually think they are right to have “just” sex with someone else.
8. The “it happened just once” excuse
Cheaters who use this statement to justify their cheating have no sense of responsibility.
Cheating is cheating, regardless of the number of times it is done.
Someone who cheats once has already broken their partner’s trust, and really, that is the most painful thing about cheating.
The betrayal of trust.
So, the fact the cheater thinks they can justify their cheating with the fact that it happened just once shows that they don’t understand the gravity of their actions.
9. The “we didn’t do anything physical” excuse
A lot of cheaters don’t actually realize that cheating is not only physical.
It can also be emotional.
If your partner is spending more time with someone else and caring for them more than they do for you, probably, they are already cheating emotionally.
Investing your emotions continuously into someone other than your partner is emotional cheating.
So when this set of cheaters try to justify their cheating with the fact that they haven’t done anything physically, it may be because they haven’t realized that they are cheating emotionally.
You can still work things out with your partner if this is truly what happened.
10. The “I don’t love you anymore” justification
This is one of the saddest things ever.
Being told by someone you love that they don’t love you anymore can be devastating.
It is even more destructive when it comes after you discover that they have been cheating on you.
It’s more like a hit below the belt, and trust me, it hurts like hell.
However, you can always pick yourself up from the ground and move on with your life through the support and guidance of your loved ones.
Ultimately, it is already proven that a cheating partner will do anything to justify themselves when caught cheating.
Even throw you under the bus, if possible.
It is important to be ready for any of these responses if you plan on confronting your cheating partner.
Even as you confront them, there is one thing you should never forget;
If it seems like they are trying to make themselves the victim and blame you for their actions, no gree for anybody!
PS: “No gree for anybody” is the Nigerian motto for 2024, which means you shouldn’t let anyone trample on you or manipulate you.
In other words, stand your ground!